It’s sad that people - humans, like you and me need wake up calls to open up our eyes.
Steps.
1. something drastic happens
2. you claim that you are going to change for the better
3. for couple weeks, maybe months, you do change and stay with it
4. you go back to your past state.
I was a victim of this.
However, this “incident” really opened my eyes to the truth.
Fortunately, I have found the solution to genuinely changing - instead of changing for someone, we need to change for God.